Perinatal Mental Health

is a broad term that encompasses anything and everything in a person’s reproductive narrative…

a term I love because our stories are constantly changing, being revised, added to, thought about, edited to include footnotes, new chapters, afterwords, and so on.

People may struggle at any point in their narrative, and no matter the details, they deserve support and understanding.

Maybe you’re

thinking about all those people who said, “Enjoy every moment,” and wondering why you’re not.
feeling confused about your role, and unsure of how to navigate the needs of your partner, your baby, and yourself
walking on eggshells around certain people, hoping to minimize conflicts, but inside you’re raging
struggling in your relationship because parenting values are in conflict

And you want

to feel more grounded, calm, and released from the swirl of thinking?
practice skills when you’re feeling regulated, so that they will feel accessible when you aren’t
get coping strategies to help with the intensity of the emotions you are going through

Call me when you need support at any point during your reproductive journey.

Perinatal Mental Health

Preconception...

Do I want to have a baby?

Trying to conceive...

This feels so pressured.

Infertility...

Why is this so hard?

Pregnancy loss...

I can't believe this happened to me.

Adjusting to pregnancy...

This is overwhelming, and I'm not enjoying being pregnant.

Non birthing partner support...

I'm not the one who had the baby, why am I struggling?

Gestational carriers and intended parents...

How do we navigate this process?

Healing from birth trauma...

How do I process what happened so that I can move forward?

Challenging postpartum experiences...

This isn't at all what I expected.

Stillbirth and infant loss...

How do I move forward after what happened?

New parent life...

Why am I not enjoying this?

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Imagine Having The Safety And Support To

Process your unexpected birth experience.

Unpack and explore the expectations you had.

Find ease within the demands of your day without white-knuckling your way through it.

Unstick those sticky thoughts and build resilience.

Work on boundaries with your family of origin.

Build up your community support system.

Explore what self care means to you and work toward making it a part of your everyday life.

Dads Matter Too!

You’re feeling confused about your role, and unsure of how to navigate the needs of your partner, your baby, and yourself. It’s like you’re expected to know what to do, but your own dad didn’t model this for you and you want to break cycles.

Together We Can

Explore what being a parent means to you.

Identify ways to bring balance and harmony into your new family life.

Process your experience of bringing a baby home.

Incorporate tools and skills to improve communication and self regulation.

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Parenting in Challenging Situations

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Are You Feeling Maxed Out, Overstimulated, and Unsupported?

Parenting in challenging situations can feel infuriating and isolating like you’re stuck in a cycle you never wanted to be in.

Are you walking on eggshells around certain people, hoping to minimize conflicts, but inside you’re raging? Do you feel like you constantly have to edit yourself in order to survive the day? Do you wonder what kind of parent you could be if you weren’t stuck dealing with this other thing?

Have you lost a sense of yourself and can’t remember a time when you put yourself first?

You deserve support, because your experience is valid.

Are You:

seeing that habits and history from your family of origin are having a negative impact on the way you parent?

feeling like navigating your in law relationship has become more challenging since having kids?

struggling in your relationship because parenting values are in conflict?

feeling like someone is rejecting your reality?

Do You Want:

to feel more grounded, calm, and released from the swirl of thinking?

to learn skills to navigate your life as a parent and thrive in your relationships with your partner and children?

relief from the pain, and assurance that you can get through this?

to learn how to truly let go and move forward without this pain?

What if there was a space for you to be deeply heard?

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Together, We Can:

explore what happens at home when anger and dysregulation feel contagious.

make a plan for how to take care of yourself when things feel out of control.

build confidence in yourself as an individual as you parent your child.

embrace true self care (it’s not taking a walk or a bubble bath).

Together, We Will:

identify areas where you can reduce the demands and let go of familial and societal rules that don’t work in your home.

practice skills when you’re feeling regulated, so that they will feel accessible when you aren’t.

challenge beliefs in order to see if they actually work for you, or if they are holding you back.

Perinatal Grief & Loss

This is so hard, you never thought you’d be in this place.

You planned on bringing your baby home, and now you’re hearing terms you’ve never heard before: fetal diagnosis, TFMR, incompatible with life. This is unimaginable. How do you navigate this?

Are You Wondering What To Do When

You feel sad and lost in a deep well of grief, asking yourself, “How can I ever stop hurting?

It seems unfathomable to try again, or to go on with parenting older children while you’re suffering through this loss?

You feel like you don’t know what happened, things feel surreal, like it’s all so hard to believe?

You aren’t getting support from friends and family who don’t understand?

Perinatal Loss Can Take On Many Forms,
All Undeniably Difficult

Did you receive a fetal diagnosis, and found out that your baby wouldn’t survive after birth?

Were you faced with the decision to terminate your pregnancy in order to survive yourself?

Did you experience a stillbirth, or did your infant die?

Have you received a diagnosis for yourself that impacts your family planning?

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Therapy Can Give You The Support And Space To Grieve, Process Your Experience, And Find Relief

You’re the one who has lost their baby, yet so far, it’s been a challenge to find support. You’ve turned to friends and family but no one seems to be able to sit with you through this.

Imagine Having A Space Where You Can

Feel fully understood and validated, without having to explain everything that happened detail by detail.

Connect with someone that gets it and who doesn’t try to “fix” you or your grief.

Get coping strategies to help with the intensity of the emotions you are going through.

Find a gradual easing of the lows to get to a place of calm, acceptance, and peace.

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Schedule A Free Phone Consultation

Scheduling a free phone consultation is the first step toward feeling better. I’m here to collaborate with you and to listen to you, so let’s explore together.

Email is the best way to reach me: [email protected]
Texting or calling works, too: (973) 397-5133

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